The one where I lost track of time...

Woah, it has been such a long time since I did a proper update since the blog trended. I kind of lost track of time with my busy schedule and the little things that have planned for the month of August. The highlight has got to be Baobei's surprise 24th birthday. It was nice to get his bestfriends and my bestfriend for a wavehouse session (I am surprisingly good haha!) and blindfolding him halfway in Sentosa where I had booked a room at Amara Sanctuary for us. This is on top of the advanced birthday gift I got him, which is Sony Z2, in May. I told him, in return I want iPhone 6. HAHA! Well, last one a single boy and as someone's (me) fiance, that's good enough.

We had 2 jalan raya, one with my group of friends (LIFO) while the other was with his friends (Tees). Even when we jalan raya with his friends, we prepared a surprise cake for him and Amzar (planned by ABst and I). So restless with the secret group chats. The only difference was with Tees, we went the Amped Park to celebrate Am's advanced birthday after all the kecoh houses since everyone was there. Enough surprises lah, two years back to back. Hahah. But the smile on his face, I will do it over and over again.

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Oh, this happened too

So yes, we finally came around to register our intended nikah date. Initially I kept having problems with the website that Baobei went down to ROMM to do it, only to realize my uncle (my saksi) gave the wrong IC number. Poor baby had to go there, and being all nervous about choosing the Tok Kadi. HAHAH. But I am slowly getting all excited about our wedding (again). HAHAH.

Met 2 of my darling bridesmaids the other night, Izza and Ally, and they started planning out my hen-cum-bachelorette-cum-henna night all in one. The plan for now is to book a suite, have a mobile spa to come over for massage and classic manicure and pedicure (especially for those who are not doing inai) and henna at night, and after all the kecoh, go out for my bachelorette night. Only with these two, do we have crazy ideas.

And since, Baobei and I are banned from travelling until our wedding day, more and more staycation for us. We are only going to kick start our wedding plans in October, means more trips to JB.

So anyway,

SEPTEMBER IS COMING SOON, SO IT ONLY MEANS FOUR MONTHS TO GO!

The one where I am a lil excited...

People keep telling me to savour my last few months as a single girl and here I am like "Nah-ah, I can't wait to get married." Truth to be told, I can't wait to come home to my favourite person in the whole wide world. I can't wait to fall asleep in his arms and get annoyed by his snores. I like to disturb him when I am awake before him and it will be heaven being able to do that on an every day basis. Or every 2 out of 3 days, being a WAG of a firefighter heh.

So don't ever tell me that I should enjoy my last few moments of being single. I have enjoyed for the last 24 years of my life, now I can't wait to see the world differently with someone to do it with me. I can't for us to start a family and I can't wait to just grow old with him. I envy my married friends a lot. Sure, marriage is tough. But what's relationship is not tough? From the start, it was tough. Even now, it's tough. But even the toughest things in the world seem easy with the person you're in love with.

I am not sure about ThoughtCatalog when I read about people not marrying their soulmate. Soulmates are meant to tear you and make you fall in love but never meant for you? Too bad for those people who didn't pick their battles right, because one thing for sure I am marrying my best friend + soulmate + love of my life altogether, and that is worth every fight in this world.

Will do a proper update soon. This month is crazy, and next month ... well next month is the craziest especially since school is going to start again! Oh due to miscalculations, we are able to book ROMM soon. Heh, then that calls for another little milestone before getting married. My #ABST was damn kurang asam. He was all "So that means Baobei is really getting married to you?" HAHAH then he was like, "Wait you booked your honeymoon before ROMM?" 

Well, yeah.

The one where it's the aftermath of TKKTKCseries...

Ever since The Kakak-Kakak Tunang/Kahwin Clan series Part 3 started trending on the Facebook, I was told that most people agreed with me, while some told me to get married before I speak of the topic. And I find this particularly funny because hantaran is before the marriage. So how can I talk about it when it matters before my marriage? Some people are bitter that I am trending on Facebook or my face is appearing non-stop. Okay, let's clear some stuffs between you and me:

• I never asked for the blog post to be trending. If I wanted it to trend, I would have tried my hardest to promote it back in November 2013. Actually, come to think of it I may have posted the link on my Facebook and Twitter after writing it. It didn't trend then (hahah I am not popular *cries*) but some popular kid out there shared on his/her page that probably had thousands of friends on his/her list. So don't hate me, hate the popular kid if you must.

• This topic is sensitive to the Malay community so what gives me a right to talk about it? Because I find it downright ridiculous that people are putting a price on their daughters yet no one is saying anything about it. Taboo? Well, it's about time someone said something. I know this is an unfavourable opinion for a woman especially, but I believe there's always a line between 'religion and tradition' and often people get carried away. Your hantaran is $10,000? K. I don't care, and I never will. It is unlike me to KPO on other people's business. So don't get all crappy with me because I spoil market or what. You're probably bitter because either you wish you're me or you fall on the other side of the debate. Either way, you can't win.

• I stand by my opinion that even if the guy side mampu to pay the hantaran, he still shouldn't. For one, to who are you trying to show? Why do you need to show? So what if he can pay me 30k but he does not have qualities of a good husband. No price can put on that kind of qualities. So I rather people see my husband as a good man who is able to take care of my needs, love me always, makes me happy, provide for me (on a daily basis instead of just one day) and is loyal to me. I pick that over 10k. What does 10k show? He can provide me a comfortable life but what if his perangai is shit and causes me unhappiness? So what lah, big deal 10k. Why not instead of asking me how much is the hantaran, ask if he makes me happy for a change? (To answer that question, Yes Baobei does make me very happy.) Anyway, my late BIL gave my sister hantaran of 15k (willingly as he initially planned on 10k but when his parents came over to merisik, he changed to 15k) not only did my own relatives talked shit about it but also said things like "Eh menantu Rahman kaya eh." My late BIL was not rich. He worked very hard and was thrifty. Big difference eh Makcik. (///Side track: I miss you Abang Faizal. I always wished you could have met Syahrul.)

• People say that hantaran will remind men about the hardships before the wedding which will then make him realised and work harder for the marriage. My take? Marriage is two person working hard on it, every f day. Yes, men are the ones who provide for us and they are our imam, But what makes you think that it should only be the men who works hard to make a marriage work? Both should make an equal effort to keep the marriage here work so you will be together in the thereafter. And since you women think it's so easy, why don't you save the same amount of money you asked for the hantaran on top of the wedding, and you tell me if it is easy. Not so easy to ask for 10k huh?

• My future MIL actually asked if Syahrul can give me 5k for hantaran instead of the agreed amount of $3,333.33 but Syahrul and I told her no (and explained my rationale instead of dismissing her suggestions because that is just downright rude). I understand where is she coming from because she wants people to know that her anak is doing well and is able to take care of a wife. But I also told her that I know that, my parents know that and they, as his parents, know that, and for me, that is more than enough. Besar or kecik, tetap people are going to talk about it. So no need to make it into a big fuss.

Anyway, we have already used part of the hantaran to book our flight for the honeymoon (that on a separate entry about how we going to present the duit hantaran on our wedding day since we have already used it) and definitely will be using more of it to book the hotels and miscellaneous stuffs once we have settled the itinerary.

But if you're still not happy, at least have the decency to say it to my face lah or directly to me. Instead of thrashing me on Facebook or Instagram or Twitter or whatever lah. Don't be such a coward, I am so easy to find on all platforms of social media. You can also leave an anonymous comment for all I care, at least it's to me and not through other people. Please lah, grow some balls and then we can talk like human beings. If not, I suggest you eat up your unhappiness and let it die inside of you. K.

I am very opinionated so if you think you can't deal with it, don't read me. But if your choose to still do it, and you sakit hati, remember that you brought this upon yourself.  I have basic respect and courtesy for every human being but once we have crossed that line, I don't really have anything nice to say to you. 

Oh wells, you can't win with people who are so narrow minded. That's the sad, pathetic truth. Maybe some morals and education can give you a better prospective. If not, take this with a pinch of salt.

With all these drama-mama going on, I don't have the mood to blog about my fiancé's birthday which I will soon with the next few events that will be happening. Heh.

And for those who find me on various social media platform to tell me that you love my posts, I salute you! You and I will be very good friends. For those who are still being bitter and hate me, 

k.

I will not stop here, too. Oh to make things easier, you may find these series in the folder called TKKTKCseries. Have a good longgg weekend, because I will. Thank you for the du'as for a smooth sailing journey for our wedding. Syahrul and I appreciate it. In Shaa Allah it will, Amin.

The one that it escalated quickly...

I was told yesterday that my blog entry was trending on Facebook yesterday and believe me when I say I was stunned + surprised altogether. After all the post that was trending was written on 17th November 2013. So I am sure how did it resurface back. Hahaha! When someone commented on my IG about how she loves my blog posts, I thought it was funny to check my blog stats. 2000? Kidding right? The most number of visit was 800.

30 minutes later, it increased by 1000.

47, 272

I was also told that people had conflicting views about my blog post and I am cool with it. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion anyway. But before you come up with a conclusion about my entry, you might want to catch up on The Kakak-Kakak Tunang/Kahwin Clan series:

The Kakak-Kakak Tunang/Kahwin Clan Part 1
The Kakak-Kakak Tunang/Kahwin Clan Part 2
The Kakak-Kakak Tunang/Kahwin Clan Part 3 (Currently trending)

And the post where I talk about Hantaran
The One Where Makciks' Dotters Speak of H

Oh, please play nice or I will not be nice either. After all, these are MY own opinions and we can hate or love it together. I welcome your opinions too. There's only one thing I ask which is to respect my family, fiancé and friends on my blog okay? If you have an issue with me, we can it talk out. I will be replying blog comments in a bit.

xo.

///POST NOTE: Even if the men mampu to come up with 10-15k, kena tunjuk ke? I am pretty sure there are certain things left better not known to many. Unless, tunjuk menunjuk is part of your plan in the first place. 

The one with our second Syawal together...

I had an amazing first week of Syawal (1432), so this is going to be a photo-entry/little updates.

This is before lipstick.

And after lipstick, it's lots of célfies

And then, my ever talented SIL helped me curled my hair

And yes, I am amazed that my hair is that long! I always like to ask Baobei if my hair is long and his reply will always be "Very long, very nice." He likes to play with my hair and then always say "Cannot cut," which means no cutting hair even after wedding (although that was the plan, or rather all BTBs hahah!)

And since Baobei is working on the first day of Syawal, I thought he should have some Raya in his stomach and since everyone is over at my house I decided to send some food over. Mama was "Sayang jugak dia." Heh.

My cousins, Hyckell and Kak Ada followed me. Well, Kak Ada says she wants to catch glimpse of firemen. HAHA.

Hehehehe.

So #nakjugak selfie with the fiancé 

& last one

My very own Bomba Singapura!

Later that day, 

Cousins that are important to my life!

My own adopted daughter, Adelle Atiqah.

The last part of the day selfie!

Wednesday, Baobei and I were a lil sick of Raya food so we have some 

Red Velvet Waffles!

A bit cheesy hor with the same hoodie (it's my twin's because Betrayal ran out of my size).

Saturday, Ibu-Baobei extended an invite to jalan Raya with his family (maternal side) which is pretty cool because I never went Jalan Raya with a boy's family and I am his first heh.

Hehehe, my fabbret person in the whole wide world!!!

My hair became flat by the 3rd or 4th house.

It is nice to be introduced as "Jum's bakal menantu" or "Tunang Nizam."

One nenek at this house we visited said,

"Da tunang? Bagus lah tu. Ingat kalau da tunang kena selalu sayang-sayang abang." 

Hehehe, ALWAYS SAYANG THIS ONE WHAT!

And today's jalan raya, I was late because was having some us-time before Baobei went to work so I had to take twin's bike to Jurong.

And that concludes week one of Syawal.

Pretty sure week two to four will not be very happening but there are a couple of things I am looking forward! Baobei's birthday (or rather he says it's our birthday haha because I don't like the fact I am older than him by a few months so he came up with this thing where we have 2 birthdays a year), jalan raya with LIFO and Baobei's side of friends.

And one happy thing that has happened this week,

WE FINALLY BOOKED OUR FLIGHT TICKETS FOR HONEYMOON! Which means not changing of destination anymore hahah! 

I don't really care if my P doesn't approve my 6 days of leave but 8D7N is going to be AMAZING! I am looking forward to doing up our itinerary which means hotels, booking tickets for some of our activities and jeep rental. Yes, we are both crazy over jeeps (apart from each other haha).

I am so blessed, Alhamdulilah for the little and big things.